Shifting Towards Co-Regulation
how do we move closer towards co-regulation?
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for our babes, it may be a physical holding on the path towards co-regulation.
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our little ones tend to need this the most amongst any big changes (of which there have been many for most of our community), because, as Gabor Mate says, they feel it all.
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every shift in energy, every change in pupil dilation, change in heart rate, tone of voice, and respiration rate.
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they are impacted far more than we know.
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and this is not to strip power, but to deepen understanding of what it means to take care, to be held, to nurture.
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so even, no especially, in those moments in which we want to move with efficacy and vitesse, we slow. we hold our little ones. we match their tone, their degree of nourishment needed, and we slow.
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and that is where the healing happens.
